Don’t underestimate the weight of having daily rituals in living together. Although seemingly insignificant, these are actually ways to make a commitment to live in harmony with your partner. Look at them as reminders that they both put on to preserve their happiness, privacy and intimacy no matter how hard work, street or the rest of the house is.
We have compiled some tips published by The Huffington Post that will help you establish small rites inside the bedroom. And we’re not just talking about sexual intimacy. Pay attention.
No entry with cell phones
It’s all right to share those moments of isolation with your partner, where they’re both looking at their screens side by side. But make it a rule not to promote that behavior once you’re in the bedroom. Leave the phone with the high volume so you can hear if someone calls, in case it’s an emergency. But your chats, posts and tweets can wait until the next morning.
Nothing of street clothes
The day has been long, you only dream of flapping in your bed, snuggling next to your partner and talking nonsense until they fall asleep. A little advice to make this better? Make sure you put your pajamas on first. This habit will remind you that your room is a kind of sanctuary and, as such, deserves some consideration. Take off your clothes, fold them or put them in the laundry basket and make sure that the moment you finally get into your bed you’re totally in the mood that that requires.
Lie down at the same time
Sometimes it’s hard to coordinate schedules, but getting used to going to sleep on your own at different times could damage the relationship in the long run, widening gaps between you. And if the reason you’re not sleeping at the same time is because one of you stays stuck in front of the TV or the computer late, all the more reason you have to make the effort to break that vicious circle.
Outside the tele
Since we’re talking about distractions and sleepovers, you should also consider keeping the TV in a space other than the bedroom. Sometimes it is rich to zap at night and laugh for a while with (or from) whatever is on the channels. But the risk of this becoming a routine that prevents them from talking more or having more sex is high. Better avoid trouble. In addition, you will spend less hours in a position that is not good for your neck or back.
Do not exaggerate with certain licenses
All right, living together means exposing one another’s intimacy at every level. And this also means losing some remilgos and protocolary reservations. But if that means that gases, burps and so on become part of the communication between you, you run the risk of losing something valuable in the long run: respect.